Which is more nebbach …?* * (definition and more fun words over here on Chaviva’s Kvetching Editor blog!) When I was a single mom with 2 little kids and everybody used to invite us for Shabbos meals? I got so sick of being nomadic, shlepping from place to place, bringing gifts, dressing nicely, meeting strangers, kids on their best behaviour, pretending to like the food… well, it all just felt terrible at the time. Very nebbach, like everybody was feeling sorry for us. Like I was some kind of – gasp – charity case. OR Now that I am married with 4 kids and nobody, it seems, wants to have us for a Shabbos meal. We don’t live in a HUGE community, but several families quite nearby have kosher kitchens and (seemingly) guests all the time: families, singles, couples… but never us. I have no idea why! We are always on our own, and I’m so sick of sitting in one place, everybody dressed all shlumpy around the table, never meeting anybody new, kids arguing, and all of us so stuck