Seated on the floor Tisha b’Av morning, sifting through 30 years worth of papers (highly recommended for the occasion as both a saddening and deadening kind of occupation), I came across a small stack of thank-you cards from YM’s upsherin… ie, the upsherin we held when he turned three.
Yes, the same YM who is turning 19 in a month and a half.
I still really like the “logo” I designed for his upsherin – a blue scissors, open, with “YM” from top to bottom one way and the Hebrew letters yud and mem the other way. I mock-airbrushed it with my set of “Blo-Pens” – a truly kitschy-but-cool craft supply if ever there was one. I used cutting-edge scanning & colour-copying technology to apply the logo to everything from the invitations (in fridge magnet form!) to the program (yes, there was a program) to, well, the thank-you cards I don’t think anybody ever got.
To be very fair, because his birthday comes out right after Sukkos, I didn’t get around to doing the actual upsherin until maybe a month later. So they’re not REALLY 16 years old, right?
And okay, some of the intended recipients are already dead – not least, the “Zeidy” in this card.
(card reads “Dear Bubby and Zeidy – Thank you very much for the new kippah and my special Winnie-the-Pooh surprise card (+ the loader!). Iy”h you should see this much nachas (and more!) from me and all your children and grandchildren in the future. Love,”)
I never mailed the stack because I was having him initial each one, a tedious task for a 3-year-old, and one which I eventually abandoned in favour of, well, abandonment.
I threw away the obvious cards – people we’re no longer in touch with; people who have died (“Dear Nanny”). The rest, well, I have the idea of giving them out at the goodbye party my mother’s making for us this coming Sunday. You know, with a small smile and a “whoopsie.”
After all, who hasn’t had something slip their mind from time to time… for 16 years???
(p.s. Interested in upsherins in general? Here are pics and video from GZ’s!)