Saturday, January 15, 2011

Six Word Saturday: 11 Shevat, 5771

Why the weird dates? Click here to find out! 

Sorry – I avoid F2F:  do you?

A response to Batya’s post where she says she prefers seeing friends F2F:

Not me!  I think I'm very different in person; I think there’s a huge disconnect between my online personality and my in-person personality.  And I think the online one is more authentically me.

F2F, I'm pretty withdrawn in social situations outside of my immediate family - almost autistically so, though I've never been diagnosed.  I tend to avoid any social contact that doesn't involve small children playing nearby.

I make friends slowly and only with people who have very identifiable bodies and/or facial features because everybody tends to look alike and blur together.  If you look average, we can’t be friends; sorry – there are simply too many of you!

(in a more extreme form, it’s called prosopagnosia, and Oliver Sacks has it)

The computer eliminates this problem:  the person's name, blog, etc., are right up there at the top of my screen. 

I've been emailing my friends in various ways since 1982... so it feels way more natural than F2F.

Written text allows me to "see” other people's thoughts and lives in an explicit way that isn’t possible in person and it lets me communicate my ideas as articulately as possible. 

Every paragraph you see on this blog has probably been reworked five times or so, crafting it to perfection.  This paragraph has been no exception; it’s lucky I type fast.

All of which said:  maybe it's my neshama yeseirah, but on Shabbos, I'm able to socialize and interact with guests and we all usually have a good time.  And then I see the people during the week and barely say hello.

Honestly, I think I’d be disappointed, meeting myself in person.

Which do you prefer, seeing friends f2f or online???